On Friday morning, I awoke to the news that a dear friend passed away surrounded by family. She had been recently diagnosed with cancer and unfortunately it had spread too far for her to have a fighting chance. On Saturday we celebrated her life and said goodbye to her.
When she found out she was dying, she planned her funeral and was clear on what she wanted. She would have been pleased with her timing. She didn’t want a fuss and having her funeral the next day was a deliberate act on her part. She wouldn’t have wanted people having to take time off work, for her. Her touches/requests were felt throughout the celebration, from her choice of music to the adherence to time to the kids table provided with child appropriate food after the service. Every detail planned and executed as she would have wanted.
The service and celebration of her life was both touching and humorous. The speeches befitting of her and the singing that followed from those that spoke was beautiful. Tears and laughter were part and parcel of the service. As the service drew to a close, her last wish was relayed by one of her sisters, “After you have had a cup of tea go home and get on with your life”. At the end of the service I felt emotionally drained yet at peace.
When she told me of her illness I remember saying “Why you, that sucks!, Why can’t it be some bad person?”. She said that she had to go to make way for other good people to be introduced to the world. She was always seeing the best of every situation and was selfless to the end. I am happy she is no longer in pain and with her parents now.
“M” my dear friend you will be missed but not forgotten. I am happy that you came into my life and grateful for your friendship over the years. You made an impression on my heart and mind.